“I met a very intriguing man who reached out to me with great interest and desire to get to know me. He actually sent me a love test which we took together on one of our phone dates. Wow! We had so much in common. Both Romantics. Nice.
In response, I suggested we try the Couples Online Tool from the Book of You™. At first glance it looked possible. We live hours apart so we had to make plans that allowed for an over night.
At first it was great. We spent 2 solid days together. But, as time went on I felt uneasy even though he seemed delighted. He sent me emoji hearts and flowers when he got home, while I wondered about the future of this relationship.
After not hearing from him for 3 days while I kept texting him and trying to call, I looked carefully at the online tool for couples that we had gotten and noticed a a few things immediately: This guy’s style is to always be doing something – planned. But I love to be spontaneous and decide on the spot. I wanted to stay another night; he HAD to go home to change his tires. Waaaah?
Then I saw that I am going to have a tendency to be much more outspoken than his needs can accommodate. I guess that is why I have not heard from him since that 2 day experience.
I wondered if I should put this relationship on ice? And then I noticed, while we have some interests in common, it is not a lot. And his usual style in general is diametrically different from my needs. I will wait to see if I hear from him. I suspect not, but if I do, we are going to have a conversation on how we navigate these differences."~S of M and S: